How we can help you with your relationship problems through counselling, hypnosis and hypnotherapy
A lot of the work we do with clients is about relationships. Relationships with the self, with family, friends, acquaintances, colleagues, co-workers and of course, intimate romantic relationships.
We also work with many clients that want to ‘move on’ from a past relationship but find themselves still thinking about their ex, crush or previous love interest even though the relationship or hope for it has ended.
Relationships involve communication and being able to logically navigate your way through difficult conversations and conflict is both a skill and an art! Openly discussing what is going awry with a neutral party like us at North Shore & City Hypnotherapy can be really helpful in identifying and resolving individual issues that are potentially causing problems.
We all have a communication ‘style’, and your style is unique to you (please note the style we refer to is not determined by a questionnaire!). There are many subconscious influences of your communication style, and your feelings, intentions, attitudes, expectations, and perceptions stemming from your beliefs, etc., will invariably filter through depending upon whom you are communicating with, the type of relationship you have, and subject matter.
Communication, though, is a two way street.
How you receive communication, process the information, interpret and respond to it is also highly influenced by your subconscious mind, and any unresolved issues from the past. These issues may have been festering since early childhood, via messages from family, for example to behave a certain way.
As a simple example, if you as a boy you were told ‘boys don’t cry’, and you interpreted that as ‘boys who cry are weak’ and you make the decision ‘I am a boy, I have cried therefore I am weak, and must not show weakness’ this can lead to over compensatory behaviour when it is perceived someone may judge you to be weak, so you become direct and domineering in your communication style, which may intimidate some people, it may challenge some people, and can lead to obvious problems.
Similarly if you as a girl observed your mother helping and nurturing others, and you were rewarded for the same behaviour, you may make the decision that ‘nurturing is helpful, it’s the right thing to do’. Later in life you may become overprotective, smothering or controlling and this may disempower some people and challenge others. This can lead to conflict.
These are very simplistic examples to demonstrate how messages overt or covert, become beliefs, generate thoughts and feelings and can result in communication difficulties.
So how can we help? I’m glad you asked!
Whether your relationship issues are past or present, whether you want to improve communication now or for in the future, whether you are seeking help for your work or personal relationships, whatever your relationship issues we can help you to overcome them!
Through hypnotherapeutic counselling, we take a comprehensive history and identify key areas that need to be resolved in hypnosis for you to be the way you want to be, and express yourself the way you want to in relationships. These encompass old beliefs that no longer serve you, as well as thought patterns, feelings and self-talk.
And just like no two Hypnotherapists were made equal, no two relationship issues are the same, though the snapshot may appear identical, what is driving the behaviours and feelings are going to be entirely different because your life experience is unique.
So how do we resolve your issues? Easily and effectively!
We take you into hypnosis and use various techniques to unlock and resolve deeper issues, build and reinforce coping strategies, self-esteem, positivity, optimism and seal the deal with a zen-like logical, rational, detached calm.
Every client is different and every session will be unique, depending on the goal and techniques used. We have been described as the ‘mixed martial arts’ of therapy! See Unique Approach.
We also recommend, where applicable, CDs to support you throughout your transformation. (Discounts are available for existing clients!)
What do your relationship issues cost you?
Do they hold you back from advancing in your career? Can you put a monetary value on that?
Do you invest time and energy in avoiding communication or conflict, or concealing your issues?
Does it inhibit you in your everyday relationships?
Do you neglect yourself, family and/or friends because of it?
What is the cost and impact on your health? On your physical appearance?
What is the cost and impact on your sense of self-worth and wellbeing?
What is the cost and impact on your ability to perform at work? At home?
What is the cost and impact on your relationships?
What is the cost and impact on your reputation?
Are you misunderstood?
Is your style of communication working for you?